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The path to finding the picture perfect romantic bond can be a strenuous one, full of dead ends, upsets, agony and even cynicism. And yet, we continue in the expectation of ultimately encountering the perfect person who will make us whole with ecstatic fulfillment. I am here to help you in accelerating that task.

The largest trap on the path to love is the thought that you are not whole and that someone else can deliver the missing parts that are preventing fulfillment. If you think about it, though, would you be drawn to someone who considered themselves as 'not whole' and expressed a belief that only YOU could make them whole? If you are not fascinating your picture-perfect mate, this is a possible reason why. The happy news is that this can be simply fixed, once you have the information you will need to perceive this clearly.

Another major phenomenon that trips up most would-be lovers is that they depend only on romantic or sexual chemistry to choose a life partner. They fail to understand that chemistry lessens after a period of time and if the underlying connection is not based in common interests and a rock-solid friendship, they may be left, ultimately, with not much more than the possibility of separation. That's why it is so essential to take the time to really understand each other before even thinking about the responsibility of matrimony.

There are many bodily-gorgeous would-be lovers on the planet who can satisfy you with great sex. It's much more difficult to find is a person who is an ideal match for your individuality and interests. Such an individual does not have to be at all like you but they must hit it off with you. If they are similar to you, you will both take pleasure in doing things together. If they are unlike you, you will enjoy learning from one another and, although this can be a bit difficult at times, such a connection can be a stimulating and pleasing life-long encounter.

Another snare is our habit of judging our partners by what they DO instead of who they ARE. While you can like or dislike what the other person is doing every now and then, you can only love them for who they ARE. It's often very difficult for people to make this distinction. If you married a person because they were a celebrity or powerful or esteemed by others, you would have married them for what they DO instead of who they are. This will prove, in the years to come, to be simply insufficient. Alternatively, if you married a person because they caused your heart to light up whenever they entered the room or because they were humorous, devoted, caring, remarkable or mischievous, you would be marrying them for who they ARE and you could almost undoubtedly anticipate a long and joyful relationship.

There is, of course, a lot more to this business of discovering the best person with whom to share an enduring and joyful romance. However, we have just considered some of the most key romantic pitfalls. Now here's the happy news: Once you have the appropriate information, you will start to be a person who will be beguilingly attractive to the opposite sex and it should not be a long time before you discover the love of your life.